Hurray! Another list of things that will make you manly, or not, courtesty of the Daily Mail written with apparent seriousness.
As ever, it's the fault of feminism for stamping out these attributes even though men still hold the majority of positions of power and cultural influence and have done so for the last fifty years yada yadda yadda:
Years of feminism, which insists on the absolute interchangeability of the traditional roles of man and woman, are giving way to a reassertion of the male attribute of machismo, it is claimed. The metrosexual, that urbanised, sensitive, emotionally and physically androgynous model of 21st-century manhood, is dead.
I love it when newspaper columnists make global decisions about gender and identity. Send out the heralds! Sound the trumpet! Metrosexuality is dead! Make way for the new (old) manliness!
Once more, we're making lists of qualities which are the essence of manliness - even though having those qualities isn't the absolute mark of being a man. We're also oversimplyfing or inventing feminist arguments because we don't understand what's happening:
Manliness is not braggadocio. It is stoicism, self-respect, decisiveness, assertiveness. Of course, advocates of the Menaissance may argue that we shouldn't be too concerned about what kind of a man women want these days. Isn't that, they would say, the way we arrived at simpering metrosexuals desperate to please their other halves?
First of all, these new traits are not exclusively manly: there's nothing to stop anyone - male or female - from acquiring a sense of self-respect, so I'm not sure how this contradicts the deconstruction of traditional roles.
Second, the "simpering" metrosexual (easy on the coded queer-bashing, BTW) was an economic subset of middle class masculinity - very, very few men ever identified that way. But still, please continue to make gross, contradictory generalisations:
It is the atavistic desire to provide for those you love that forms the basic building block of manliness. It has existed since the physically stronger sex travelled the plains in search of meat for the family and it continued until the rise of feminism in the 1960s, a movement which would have us believe that men and women are biological and emotional clean slates, each possessed of identical and interchangeable faculties when it comes to work, life and family.
Ah, welcome, straw-feminist - damn you for interrupting the noble act of meat-gathering which formed the basis of our social units right up until the second world war. Of course, the claim that women can work outside of the home means that they are biologically identical to men: time to throw away those pills. Ah, crazy, kooky, non-existent straw-feminist..
It's also entirely unclear why feminism would oppose "providing for the one you love"; what Newland seems to mean is "provide for the one you love a traditional way." Newland also either ignores (or fails to understand) that while difference between men and women might exist, it's not the same thing as the difference encoded in traditional gender roles. It's also not continuous: not all men are different from all women in the same ways.
Yet the claim on a pure manliness persists - a claim which once more points out that no such thing exists:
Up and down America, feminists bearing torches and pitchforks are on the trail of Harvey Mansfield, a Yale University professor whose book, Manliness, laments: "We are in the process of making the English language gender neutral, and 'manliness', the quality of one gender, or rather of one sex, seems to describe the essence of the enemy we are attacking, the evil we are eradicating."
He continues: "Feminism needs to come to terms with manliness. I think women are confused about what they want men to be and that leads to male confusion."
On the contrary, it's Mansfield who seems to be confused - writing in the Mail
last April, he chose fictional examples of manliness over real world men and dithered between manliness as exclusively male... and a loose collection of traits which women can also have.
Newland's argument is also almost identical to Mansfield's - particularly in the presumption that masculinity is the same thing to all men (and women) in all classes, in all cultures. It imagines a golden age of manliness that didn't really ever exist - captured perfectly in The Dangerous Book For Boys, which in its introduction says that "in this age of video games and mobile phones there must still be a place for knots, tree houses and stories of incredible courage".
In general, feminists don't have a problem with either knots, tree houses or courage. They do have a problem, though, with someone telling a child that they can't play up a tree because they happen to be a girl. In Mansfield/Newland logic, refusing a strict association of gender is the equivalent of banning tree climbing. It's palpably ridiculous, as if women's ability to be traditionally masculine prevents men from acting the same way.
Though Mansfield and Newland don't admit it, they're arguing that without strict boundaries - without women who agree to be women - traditional masculinity starts to lose its cohesion. It's a fantasy that stops working when one half of the act gets bored and learns to drive and vote.
The main problem with their response to this kind of argument - aside from the confusion between essential and cultural forms of manliness - is that the only solution they offer is for women to return to their traditional roles. While masculinity is essential and inviolate, it's apparently unable to reform or evolve to match change in the lives of women - so any claim on manliness has to be framed as a critique on feminism for having gone "too far."
The other part of the Mail's argument for traditional gender roles is that women who form relationships with non-traditional men are doomed to unhappiness: see the self-generated debate over "gamma men," initiated by the Mail last week and discussed
here.
The unseen part of this "debate" - and I have a friend to thank for forwarding this fishing expedition email on behalf of the femail - is that the Mail is determind to frame women who work as selfish bitches:
WANTED a man who's suffered at the hands of ambitious, career woman either in relationship or marriage. What's it like living with somebody who's a workaholic, earning a fortune but with no time to spend nurturing others? Interview and photograph, good fee paid.
How enormously fair and balanced. Expect to see that article in the coming few days.