Alice Miles' claim that fatherhood has been dangerously undermined seems to lack any detail as to who exactly is to blame other than society in general. Oh, and women, obviously. But not men.
Somewhere along the line we have stripped men of their primary functions and made them miserable. First went supporting the family. In making it so easy for them to deny responsibility for children, from making access to children difficult to simply not expecting them to be there, we rid them of fatherhood and the responsibilities, pleasures and self-esteem it brings. Rid them? Yes. I don't believe men are worse or less loving parents than women. I think the State fails to expect much of them, helping women to push them out of the picture when they become inconvenient.
Anyone notice the problem with that logic? "In making it so easy for them to deny responsibility for children, from making access to children difficult to simply not expecting them to be there, we rid them of fatherhood" - in giving men freedom to assume responsibility or not, we actually impinge on their freedom?
The major problem here is that Miles' response to her continual assertion that the "the male role has been undermined" is that the State has to get involved. Here, fatherhood is something that has to be forced on men - or else they'll be to feckless too resist being manouevred out of the picture by women. Once more, men are too weak to avoid being made weak.
It's also a damn strange definition of male entitlement: the only way too empower men into being fathers and return the responsibilities that have been cruelly denied is to have a third party force those responsibilities on them? It's a pretty new Labourite solution, missing only the benchmarks for successful masculinity overseen by some kind of phallus csar appointed by the cabinet office.
The idea that fatherhood - and the all the responsibilities that go with it - might be something that men have to assume for themselves never appears, nor does the idea that having someone force you to do something actually frees you of a certain degree of ethical responsibility. While state-sponsored parenting qualifications might be better than having wolves raise our children, it's a false dichotomy to think we have to choose one or the other.
A state-oriented approach might be a pragmatic solution but it has nothing to do with men discovering (or apparently
recovering) a sense of purpose for themselves. A cultural problem with male identity - and how that does or doesn't include family - isn't going to be solved by threats of legal consequences for absent fathers, not least because those kind of laws are intended to serve and protect the family threatened by being left behind.
Most curiously, the image of male purpose which bookends Miles' piece has very little to do with fatherhood and everything to with purpose oriented outside of the home:
Four men in suits had a brief conference then strolled to the car park together and laughingly climbed into a car. I was struck by how relaxed they were, how distinctively happy they looked, jackets slung over their shoulders, despite the fact that they were obviously all going to be late for work. Men usually look so miserable and whiny these days. But these were commuters, they were successful, they live in a nice part of the country and they were tackling a challenge together. They had a purpose.
Middle-class contentment, much? Not a problem in essence, but hardly the least specific definition of male identity which to decry a general decay of men.
Finally, I'd like to call complete bollocks on this bit:
The overwhelming majority of books for toddlers no longer even have dads in them, which may explain the popularity of Postman Pats and Bob the Builders, the only male authority figures left. We have even edged fathers out of the literature.
This "fact" has little to no basis in reality; it's also red-herring. If trends in children's literature are culturally significant, then we need to start talking about the ontology of the Gruffalo - who, incidentally, is pictured on his website sitting, playing his Gruffalo child on his lap.